How do children learn what is right and wrong

Child can sense the situation with your expressions what is right and wrong

By the age of 3, a child begins to know pretty well what approve of and what you do not from you. For example, your teaching. your facial expressions child gets his sense of right and wrong. Kids are born with it. Unless you know that you think yourself, and stay reasonably consistent from day to day, the child is unable to know either.

At first you have to be there to tell him or stop him. Later, your presence nearby is enough. As time goes on, child can apply brakes to forbidden actions by them self.


Child knows what you want them to do and tries to do it, even when you are not there. This is the beginning of what is called conscience. A little boy refrains from raiding the cookie jar when his mother is at a neighbor’s house. Jenny shouts it’s mine instead of pinching or kicking her playmate. such restraint on behaviour shows real growth.

Conscience becomes more reliable

Over the years, a conscience becomes more reliable as stop to misbehavior, and as a guide to good. This all takes time, of course and somebody has to be ready and willing to backstop the child’s developing conscience until child is fully grown.

A useful, working conscience develops most readily in an atmosphere of kindly patience which makes the child won’t be like his parents until he is fully grown.

It is not much of conscience at all when it operates only because of fear of you or your punishments, of being found out, of encountering a bigger opponent.

Fear of the consequences

Fear of the consequences seldom stops a child and may decide he/she will trade a punishment in the future for the immediate pleasure or take a chance on no rockening at all.

This is scarcely a way to develop a conscience which, in the long run , will mean the child can be trusted without supervision. You really are seeking to support him as he develops in inner control over his behaviour.

Child learns by observation

The child learns what is right to do by being told, even more by observation and to some extent, by praise or punishment. Unfortunately, some parents spend a great deal more time scolding their children errors than praising them for their goodness.

Hard as it is to control impulses, it becomes even harder for the preschooler because they scarcely can distinguish between what they has done, and what they has imagined or wished they could do wishing a cowboy makes them one.