If your child is rather gentle, shy person, he might “hop to it” under the force of harsh scolding, but he will probably go about his talks in a half-hearted, resentful way.
Child will keep his unhappy feelings to himself and brood silently about how to find ways of doing what he wants without your knowing about it.
When you push timid child around, you may push his small, inner self into dark lonely closet of worry, shame and fear. He will hide from you and you will know only the part of him that he dares to let you see.
On the other hand, if your child has a “firecracker” response to commands, he is likely to resists direct every inch of the way. No brooding silence and outward obedience from him.
He is fighter who needs a firm but gentle hand. You might be able you control him with your greater strength and size when he is young, but the time is coming when he will be strong as big as you are.
When this happens, your small firecracker may become a cannon and his explosions will be dangerous to you, to him, and other people.
So whether your child is the easily led (but secretly resentful) type, or the “won’t give an inch” rebellious kind, you are not likely to get far by criticism and commands although you often have a good reasons, to want to handle your youngsters with an I am right, you are wrong approach, in the long run you will be wrong instead of right.
Although such bossy leadership can get momentary results in many cases, bringing up children is hardly a matter of moments you have long-range goals for your youngsters patience and tact now bring the big rewards in the future.
Truly successful methods of guiding your child are based on your deep feelings and understanding of him these methods are rooted in your love and respect for your youngster, and your conviction that he must have both freedom and guides for growth.